Postpartum Self Esteem and Libido

Logan: When you've been peed on, puked on, and you have a baby surgically attached to your breast, the last thing you want to do is have sex. I speak from personal experience. But it doesn't really mean we don't want loving, it just means we're not feeling all that good about ourselves. Ian: It's funny that you say peed on, puked on' I think a guy is still like, 'All right, let's get it on.' Logan: Well, that's nice to hear because we kind of think at that moment that we're pretty disgusting. Ian: I know. I really know this from experience. My wife constantly said, 'Well, I just don't feel sexy. I want to want sex. I want to feel sexy.' And I think that's where guys can really help by supporting their partners, little things like helping with chores but really reminding your partner just how sexy she really is. I think it is also really important, Logan, for a woman to let us know what she needs. Logan Oh yes, there is no question that we need to own some of this too. This is definitely our own psychological and also hormonal issue. You know, we have this rollercoaster hormonal ride, we don't know if we're coming or going. The body parts that used to make us feel sexy are now used for something else like breastfeeding. It's our issue too. We as women need to speak up and tell our partners that we still want to be intimate and we still love you but we need some help in that area, too. Ian: Right, it is a process regaining your sexual self esteem and balancing being a mom and being a woman. I think that is something that is essential for a couple to get through together. Logan Absolutely. For more information on sex in the baby years, check out more videos in the series.