Emotions and Pregnancy

While no two pregnancy experiences are identical, most women do find that their emotions and desires suddenly feel a bit…random. If you’re like seven out of ten moms-to-be, you’re probably experiencing mood swings that won’t quit! One minute you’re thrilled about the new wallpaper in your nursery, the next you’re crying because you can’t fit into your shoes. It makes sense that you’re so emotionally charged: You’re going through HUGE physical and mental changes, and you’re full of pregnancy hormones to boot! You’ll be better able to deal with your mood swings if you accept them as normal, and allow yourself to laugh if you can! It may be helpful is to have a healthy snack, or take a catnap. Both will help keep your energy levels stable so your brain can follow suit. Did you leave your purse at the gynecologist? Or did your forget your appointment all together? If you’re suddenly feeling absent-minded, you’re not alone…most pregnant women experience forgetfulness. You can blame your pregnancy hormones again, and the fact that your brain-cell volume actually decreases during your third trimester. Don’t worry, this is only temporary! In the meantime, it can help to write everything down in one place. On the other hand, maybe it’s not your memory that’s bothering you, but constant bouts of worry. You may be concerned that you won’t be a good mom, that diapers will elude you, or that your little one’s entrance will be painful. All of these…and a million more…are normal concerns. It may help to talk to moms who have already “been there, done that,” and to read a baby book or two. Discuss your fears with your partner…he may share them! What about depression? Shouldn’t you be feeling lighthearted and happy now that your little one is on the way? Not necessarily! One in ten women experiences depression while pregnant. Just as hormones can wreak emotional mayhem during your period, they can do so during your pregnancy. Mild depression will often go away with a reward or two…like getting a pedicure, or taking a mid-day walk in the park. But if you’re feeling hopeless or generally disinterested in life, it may be time to talk to your doctor, who might recommend pregnancy-safe antidepressants, yoga, or therapy. Another emotional hurdle that you may experience is a constant fluctuation between intense desire for sex…and NO desire at all. Guess what? Both are completely normal! Almost all pregnant women…except those with high-risk pregnancies…will be given the green-light for sex right up until labor begins. If you receive permission, talk to your doctor about positions that may be comfortable AND safe. If you’re not feeling particularly amorous, that’s okay, too. Explain to your partner that your hormones are in charge now, and nourish your relationship in other ways. Pregnancy is an emotionally trying time! Remember, you’re not alone: Your doctor, partner, family and friends are all there to share your joy (and those occasional tears!)